Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them?
I crave rules and structure.
When we first started out we put together all the possible rules that we could. I had structure coming out of my ears. I was miserable. It didn't work. It was too much too fast. I started to resent this life I so wanted. So we hit a reset button.
Now the rules are basic and simple. Everything comes back to respect and common sense. My current rules are posted on the rules page here. He slowly adds things as it comes up but, right now, most of the new rules are going to fall under the “Girly” category.
I am a Tom Boy. I love to play in the dirt. I love to wear T-shirts and jeans. I like Baseball caps and pony tails. I have never been pampered. I have never worried about my hair. I don’t wear a lot of makeup. I don’t get my nails done. Tom Boy through and through.
His latest rules are improving my appearance. I now have to get my nails done. It is a huge adjustment but I have noticed that He really likes them. He comments on my nails in every picture I send him. The little comments make me hate them less and less.
I am sure that our rules will continue to evolve. I am finding that I can do so much more with my life with the structure in place. I have more free time. Our house is cleaner. My kids are happier. I am Happy.